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Warm intros vs cold DMs

When a warm intro is worth waiting 2 weeks for vs when to skip the warm path and send a cold DM today — the reply-rate math, the relationship-cost rule, and the asking script.

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Warm intros vs cold DMs

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What this covers

  • The reply-rate math: warm intro vs cold DM by company stage and role seniority
  • When the 2-week wait for a warm intro is worth it, and when it isn't
  • The relationship-cost rule: every warm intro spends social capital, budget it
  • The asking script: how to request a warm intro without putting your contact on the spot

Why this matters for Indian devs going remote

Indian devs often have small relevant networks — every warm intro request is precious. The instinct to "wait for someone to introduce me" can stall a sprint for weeks. Knowing when a warm intro outperforms a cold DM (and when it's the other way around) is the difference between a moving funnel and a stuck one.

Outline

The reply-rate math

TODO — by company stage (pre-seed: cold wins, Series B+: warm wins big), by seniority (junior: cold OK, senior: warm strongly preferred).

When the 2-week wait is worth it

TODO — Dream-tier roles with a known mutual; Strong-tier with a same-team mutual; never for Volume.

The relationship-cost rule

TODO — every intro spends capital with your contact; don't ask the same person twice in 3 months; reciprocate first.

The asking script

TODO — "would you feel comfortable introducing me to X for Y reason" — opt-out language, no guilt, draft-message-attached.

Common mistakes to avoid

  • Asking for an intro and not attaching a draft of what they should forward
  • Stalling a sprint waiting for an intro that's clearly not coming
  • Asking the same contact for 3 intros in a month

Templates / examples

TODO — the warm-intro request template (with opt-out language), a forwardable bio + draft message, and the reply-rate comparison table.

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